"We won't be distracted by comparison if we're captivated with purpose" - Bob Goff
Comparison is something that I think everyone struggles with at some point or another. I think as women, it can be so easy to compare ourselves whether it’s through our personalities, our bodies, or even our wedding days. There seems to be a huge pressure to look perfect or have everything together and that's what we usually come face to face with while we mindlessly scroll through our instagram feeds.
It seems almost natural for humans to be in a constant state of comparison that sometimes occurs when we aren’t conscious of it. BUT as we continue to find our purpose and know our value on a deeper level, I think we are beginning to reverse the comparison cycle our society puts us through.
Purpose is shown in many different forms. You can find it through developing your passions deeper or working in a place you love. I’ve found my purpose and value in the simplicity of getting to know people better and hearing their stories. Finding our value derails the need to compare yourself and heightens our creativity and confidence in who we truly are.
I’m sure we’ve heard the quote “comparison is the thief of joy” a million times, but that’s because its true! When we allow ourselves to just look at the highlight reels of others, our joy quickly becomes diminished. BUT when we can wake up every morning and inspired to live out that day with confidence before we choose to get on our phone and see what others are up to, we are choosing to chase the joy of our individuality before we are even given the chance to compare ourselves.
Whether you’re just scrolling through social media or looking for inspiration for your wedding, we need to be aware and careful. Is what you’re seeing making you feel bad about yourself? If yes, unfollow! Do you find yourself scrolling down your feed and realizing you aren’t feeling a true connection with anyone? Put your phone down and do what makes you feel best!
I challenge you to exit out of your social media browsers for an hour everyday and do something that makes you feel valued! What makes you feel most like you? What do you notice? Think about the ways you compare yourself but more importantly the ways you can fight against it and encourage others to do the same.